Mom's making me crazy....

....again. I dunno if she just doesn't think before she speaks or what. I love her very much and I am so thankful that they can watch Aidan, but last night I called when we got out of work to let them know that we would be a little later then usual, had to let the car warm up (18 degrees outside, holy cow) and we need to stop and pick up milk on the way home and get gas. While on the phone with her she managed to insult me yet again. Here is what happened...
Mom: I've been meaning to ask you.... (insert long pause here)
Me: Yes?
Mom: Do you all spank this baby a lot? (the tone of voice was like; are you abusing my grandbaby?)
Me: excuse me?? (dumbfounded, disbelief, big long shocked silence)
Me: are you serious?
Mom: Well he comes over here and he takes all his frustration out on us, he's always hitting us....
Me: No we don't spank him a lot, and no he doesn't hit us. (anger kicked in I've got a short fuse still from the last time she irked me) Don't worry about it, I'll be quitting in a few months and you won't have to watch him anymore..
Mom: No, no! That's not what I'm saying , you're taking it the wrong way.
Me: How was I supposed to take it, Ma? You just asked me if we're always spanking him, what kind of question is that?
Mom: Well I didn't mean it like that.... (silence) be careful coming home....
that's pretty much where the conversation ended, after we said our goodbyes. I just don't know what to think anymore. She's always asking if we let him run wild at home, I tell her no, he behaves for the most part at home. I've seen first hand how crazy he is over there and let me tell you I wasn't impressed. He's like a different child, running around, screeching like a mad man. And they just let him. It's nuts. I just don't know what to say or think anymore. Any suggestions? What would you do?

Sometimes I think my mom is trying to....

put me in the LOONEY BIN. I mean really, she makes me nutso.We've got 4 days off of work for turkey day. And my mom and godmother watch Aidan during the week while we work, well my godmother watches them both, Mom's still not (and probably never will be again) up to watching Aidan by herself. Anyway, she's called everyday to see how Aidan is...as if he just doesn't get the care that he deserves when he's with us....grrrrrrr. She was talking to him on the phone today, and Aidan never holds the phone to his ear the right way so between that and her talking too loud I could hear everything she was saying...She asked him twice if he was OK...why wouldn't he be OK????, that's all I want to know. She makes a huge deal out of not seeing him for a few days. I've given up pointing out how blessed she is to see him as much as she does, I mean with the hours that we work she sees him more then I do. I used to point out to her that she's lucky she sees him this much, I tell her think of Ian's family all the way in NJ. We only get to visit 2 times a year with them right now, and she has the nerve (at least the way I see it) to complain that she's not going to see him for 2 or 3 days. When I drop him off on Mondays after having a whole weekend off she and my godmother behave like it's been 10 years since they're seen him, I mean they fall on him like a pack of wolves, hugging and kissing and "OOOOO we missed you sooooo much" OY!!!!! It's crazy. I guess I'm just over-reacting. But between the "are you OK baby" and "we sure do miss him" when it's only been 48 hours....grrrrr. Hopefully we can move soon and in the mean time hopefully I can start staying home with him instead of having to take him over there every day. I hope..... Oh boy, I sound ungrateful when I'm really not, it's been great that they can watch him, I mean otherwise we wouldn't have been able to do it, there is no daycare open on 2nd shift so I mean we need them, BUT jeez ..lighten up.

Update on my mom

As many of you know the saturday after thanksgiving last year my mom went into the hospital due to problems with her carotid artieries. We had a rather hellish 10 months after that until she finally started to improve. I just wanted to let everyone know that she is doing much better then she had been a few months ago. I just took her to the doctor yesterday and they're going to start Remicaid infusions as soon as she can get an appointment. She is freaking out about it because it involves needles, but her relatively new found R.A. is no longer responding well to the Rx meds. We're also concerned that one of the meds is raising her bloodpressure which is really bad with that still blocked artery. We're going to keep our fingers crossed in hope that this works better then what's she's on.